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Tuesday, March 17, 2015

Happy 9th Birthday Krystina Lucille Tessinari

To the most beautiful girl in the world

I am wishing you a awesome birthday dear Krystina.  You are loved by those surrounding you and for those out here in the world that get to send you birthday wishes from afar.  I am one of those from afar, but never forget that there is so many people in the world also wishing you a HAPPY BIRTHDAY because of this blog and the letters I have written you over the years.  I see you everyday, when i close my eyes.  Wow 9 years old today.  I love you no matter what.  I will always cherish you and want the best for you.  I have loved you the minute you were born and will always love you till the day I depart from earth.  You have a special place in my heart and always will and I will include your whole family.  Without you the world is just one angel short on earth.  

So this may be short and sweet but I send you an abundance of love and happiness for you and yours.  I may be far away in miles but never far away in spirit.  Be good and be the best you can be, because you were meant for many many things in life and ordinary is not one of them.  Love to you on your 9th birthday.  And may the higher powers watch over you always.

Love your grandmother
MyLinh McDonald   

Friday, March 6, 2015

To you all my readers

  To all my friends that have followed this blog to the people across the seas and the State of South Dakota and every other state, here is the response that you are all blowing up my twitter feed today and woke me up out of a deep sleep.  I express everyday you have made me strong and smile.  You are the ones that support me and get me pictures.  You are my angels out there in this world where if you didn't send me pics I would have nothing.  I know that you all need to be thanked everyday and every hour of the day.  But as you can see the little response from Kayti makes me smile and so very very happy today.  Thank you all again.  I couldn't close this today without you all knowing that.  I know all your responses are coming that going on UTube in videos could get me even a larger audience and put me on the media even more and the offers of a book with Krystina's letters are flattering but my blogging is enough and dear to me.  I don't want to be "trending" or "viral".  I just want and have always wanted one thing and that is some kind of forgiveness and communication, with Kayti first to air it all out then a great little girl or young lady named Krystina Lucille Tessinari.  And yes I did tell the truth, I would end this all for that opportunity.  I couldn't get this all out in my Tweets but I have what I want to say here and you all can forward it in whatever for me.

  I love you all to for the wonderful response I have received and still will be.  YOU ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL YOURSELF.

MyLinh       

The most beautiful 6 word response from Kayti Miner Ratigan


.... leave me out of this mess



MyLinh McDonald      March 6, 2015 at 7:42 AM

Kayti Miner Ratigan you have actually blown up the twitter acct (not mine personally) I have set up for this blog and dang girl my FB has blown up.  A RESPONSE A BEAUTIFUL 6 WORD RESPONSE.  I thought Chad's response was big in all areas of social media but my beautiful Kayti you have outdid even him.  I don't care if this was toward me, it's something.  Gosh I would delete this and everything else if we can just work on this and talk.  But I know I know you still aren't in a forgiven mood.  Well another thing I have to be thankful after all, a fight that brought you out even for a moment.  Maybe I should fight even more.  But I am so trying not to, I am to old for it and having way to much fun in life now a days.  As I see with the many people that contact me about you and the pics you are also.  You did it Kayti, you found yours and I am truly so happy that you have.  There are many wishes I have for you, and for my whole family.  I was happy when you contacted Patrick to even say, "stay out of your life" also.  Even being angry or defensive it's just a pleasure to get something from you.  Everyone askes me who would get you to take down the blog completely and I say Kayti Miner Ratigan herself.  Not by simply asking but by simply calling me and having a conversation with me that was meant from the heart.  I was thinking about it with the letters Gary was getting from Krystina, but then I thought it all stopped once again and its just not consistent enough.  If it gets better for me then I would consider it.  But only one person can make me stop.  Your beautiful Kayti and so is your wonderful family.  So if you don't respond that is okay because this is forever listed in my blog as a truly beautiful morning that I am waking up to.  I am so cheering on Yvonne Stewart who is fighting for "Grandparents Rights" in the state of Florida and pray she gets that through.  I won't be doing anything legal.  Krystina is well missed here in Florida but I am not going through all that legal stuff, I would have years ago, but as long as grandparents in the future don't go through what I have then I will have a smile my face.  I made the choice though and I am waiting for you to give an ounce even to me.  I love you as much as I loved you in the past and I love you for finding your own.  CONGRATULATIONS Kayti even if this was done in meanness or frustration I am now going to tell Arielle thank you for fighting with me and bringing up your name because it gave me something from you.  Sick I know but I take my victories and contentment from the smallest things.  
Love you and yours always Kayti.  
MyLinh McDonald 

Thursday, March 5, 2015

Nothing is easy but it all comes out good sometimes......

  I went to N. Carolina and picked up Patrick but I got was a lot more.  I think I got a daughter in law finally.  I have to say again that fight kinda made me "respect" her more and love her even more.  First of all she went toe to toe with me, and we survived.  I wasn't going to go to the house, I had Lonnie drop me off and head to the house and get Patrick.  But while I was sitting there I got a phone call from Arielle and she said what she had to say and I said my peace and we ended up agreeing to go to dinner and just say, "I love you".  I think she said she loved me.  I think I said I love you.  And let me tell you that it was nice.

  No family can be all cheery and all sunshine.  You have problems to go toe to toe and get it out.  I think that's healthy.  Hiding things and holding them in isn't healthy at all.  You have to get it out.  And there may be some truth in things you say, so you think about it and try to make things better.  Not going to be the last fight at all.  If I thought that I would have to be an idiot.  But I have to thank Arielle for reaching out and making me feel like we survived our first MAJOR fight, I just hope that I made her day also when I put out my own olive branch.

  I love you Arielle more today then I did yesterday.  I will hope that our love and friendship grows more and more everyday.  You are a wonderful Mom and a wonderful wife to my oldest, and may your family have a blessed life ALWAYS.

MyLinh



To my oldest son Gary Tessinari,

  The maturity you showed by staying out of the woman in your life fighting is the smartest thing you have ever done I think.  With that action confirmed the maturity you are coming into.  You made me so proud.  You look good Gary and happy and content and even though you are working around the clock I can see that your family is important to you.  I know you are growing into your own and no matter what your mistakes have been in the past, you have learned from them and you are a better person for it.  You have to go through the bad to see your mistakes and learn from them and WOW son you are making a mom proud.

  The woman in your life may have other issues sometimes but yeah you have a strong woman and I am a strong woman and it's going to be sometimes that we go at it.  For you to step it back and just allow us to fight it out was so mature.

  I love you Gary and you do me proud as a mom.  You know sometimes your actions sucked...hell a lot of times it sucked.  But my gosh Gary I can not say it enough, "YOU MAKE ME PROUD".  Love your family and seek the rest of the family to make it one.  I love you VERY VERY MUCH.  And always hold your family close.

Love your mom

   

Tuesday, March 3, 2015

DONE

People that hide things are not true to themselves and I personally don't hide things because "why".....I am as true as I can be. When I hide things it gave people the power to hurt me. I won't let that power be given to anyone anymore. I have family problems like everyone else in the world. I have answers I want in life. I am 46 years old and I wonder why people just don't be "honest". You know my daughter in law was brutally honest on what she thinks of my family and my children. Even though you saw me respond to it and not "nicely" I respect her for saying what she has wanted to always say. Now I know and to tell you the truth I say "FINALLY" the honest truth. But when you come at me and say here is the truth and come to find out it wasn't how do I respect you for that. I am not bothered she got her big girls pants on and fought with me. Hell at this moment I LOVE HER MORE FOR IT. She apologized to me in text and I will post it, but I don't really need a apology, i just wanted the truth. She was probably having a bad day and wanted to get things off her chest but as family I ACCEPT IT AS SHE SHOULD ACCEPT ME. I will be going to get my son because it needs to be done. He needs to finish his schooling and be a teacher. I love Arielle and Gary Tessinari with the deepest part of my heart and a fight is a fight it's how you grow from it that make you a better person and I wish EVERYONE WOULD UNDERSTAND THAT. Fighting is normal....it's how you say 'I LOVE YOU' that matters and how you are suppose to take that fight learn from it and always have each others back. Bad things come out in fights mean and vicious things...but things can be taken back as long as there is true love. So Arielle you had your truth and I gave you mine....

Now its the end for now....

My last post on my FB

Very very busy on my FB....lol....thats what happens when you have social networking.  You can post all about "god" and its a "cheery day" and all the funny video's you want.  But its all about real life and the interaction you have among people to right?  As you all saw a little drama among my family and that was a hoot and a holler.....I have been told I want to kill off 4 years old and I get jealous of children....I have been told what to write and how to write it on my FB and I have been told I am a "good" person and that my husband is sssssssccccccuuuuuummmmmmmmmm.  My son Patrick has been called names today and that I am a bad mother.  Is it funny?  Maybe not.  But the truth always comes out.  It can make us unsure of ourselves at times.  I had a father die and a mother after 46 years admit she "hated" me because of others liking me, kept asking that question and no one got on my ass about it.  I have a missing granddaughter and a grandson (not missing).  I have friends and I have enemies.  I will not bend over and stop posting because this is MY FB.  And it's to bad.  But I will also not stop on my blog neither.  You either believe it or you don't, not my problem.  If I lose friends or family not going to be the first time and won't be the last time.  But I gain the knowledge on who is my friend and who isn't, what my family thinks of me and whatever. 

My darling husband.....yes he did this himself...lol

My Husband facebook post

To my dearest wife
I know that we are at odds and I know it's my fault never said it wasn't but never confirmed it was. You are my best friend and I love you no matter what. You are loyal and fierce and you are like an oak tree that no one can chop down. I remember what happened years ago and I know you wanted to find those answers you did and then went to bed today only to wake up and have your best friend come after you. I love Marie and such very much as you have loved her for many years. But she will realize that you needed those answers and being your true self you got them. She wants to attack I know you will be there when she comes around and says "I am sorry" and if she doesn't then that is on her because she will be letting you go when you have always been there for her. She knows in her heart you would never do that but others have set it up to look like that. But those same others aren't in her life and hasn't answered her calls for help like you have. She knows you have always been there and have NEVER TURNED YOUR BACK. So I don't want you to feel like you do at the moment without me telling you that this isn't on you, it's on the people that made it happen and you keep looking for the answers if you must, but I know after what Lia commented you were at peace. They just want to keep saying it was you when I now the truth as you do.
Love your husband

MyLinh McDonald Okay my darling two times in one night you have surprised me.....I LOVE YOU always have and always will.....you and only you will be the one to make me cry tonight...THANK YOU Lonnie McDonald FOR BEING THERE FOR ME LIKE NO ONE ELSE TONIGHT....

ROUND 2

FACEBOOK POST

So I asked Lia Kral a question last night wanting an answer to something. She gave me the answer in private and I thanked her for the answer. I didn't put to much of the details about why I wanted the answer because those that know what happened didn't need the details. Wow for once I didn't put something out there and all the details...(lol)....I didn't call her a lyer and I didn't bad mouth her answer she told me what she thought at least I thought she did. But once again by not putting out the details I gave the power to others to hurt me and instead of saying, "did you get the answer" it became about why do you want to know...and name calling and such. And boohoo the "cold shoulder" like okay.....whatever.....I guess I have to say that again I thank you Lia Kral for your truth in the matter in private chat...but really don't backtrack when you are faced with something else. It's not becoming. It shows that you are two faced and not honest. You were always none as the "instigator" and personally I don't like you and you don't like me because of your own jealousy or mine. And your right for a person who can say that or set a person up for that is a SICK INDIVIDUAL.....now who could that have been????

 Lonnie McDonald You know honey I have always known you to want the truth and what you showed me in private chat and how you said, "thank you" ... you had that from Lia and thanked her. Now for her to backtrack isn't nice. And Marie will understand why "YOU" needed the answers from all parties involved. Because she is and always will love you and your quirks. She listened to you and you listened to her. And it may have been settled between the two of you but you needed the answer from the other involved and I am glad you got it and now she is showing her true colors. I will always support you. And I will always love you and your quirks

 Lonnie McDonald wow Marie that was cruel....and I am right now ashamed of what I am reading. My wife your friend wanted to know something. MyLinh McDonald didn't put the details out on Fb she asked a question and left it at that. You and Lia seemed to have wanted others to know the detail and you put it out there yourselves. And then you have reasons to cry...I think for you not to ask your friend are you okay with the answers now and instead you attack her. Just like the past...Lia was probably on the phone with you and said this and that and you end up attacking MyLinh McDonald because of that girl. I have read her diaries (with her permission) lol. And NOTHING IS EVER SAID IN ALL THE YEARS I HAVE READ WAS THERE ANYTHING ABOUT A CHILD. No ones children...is in those diaries. Not in the 80's 90's or 00's but you brought out the details and you want to throw it out there that is on you not my wife. Marie you are loved and cherished as are your children. But I am going to not be quiet and passive and if you are ever a true friend you would know that was wrong this last post. She asked a simple question got the answer and went to bed. She woke up to you and Lia putting your details out there and you are crying maybe because you know in your heart it wasn't true and you put things up there and now you are ashamed of believing the worst in your best friend.

MyLinh McDonald wow Lonnie McDonald I am speechless......THANK YOU FOR BELIEVING IN ME....sometimes you do surprise me.....I LOVE YOU...

Maritza R. Wehmann You know what Lonnie this is not with you and I hope that you really did not know anything about it and if you did you are a skummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. You guys has lead the mother of lion out waching for her cubs. I ask to not bring it out any more what more do you want. A true friend will leave it at that like what your wifeeee comment we talk about it and agreed and settle on it and move on.What Mylinh my answere was not goood enouth? It seem you are still stock in the pasts we have all moved on so you should due the same. No Lonnie Im not cruel . Cruel was you dearest wife did when she wrote that it seem you do not know her that well Im so sorry. Anyway This is over and it take two to tango and let the shit stink. Im not one off them good bye.Know Im the one that nows the true colors thanks for you guys showing it to me. Please and next time Lonnie you make a comment let it be you. Because I already know the trick that Mylinh does all the typying for you.

Lia Kral MARIA, my friend you have nothing to be ashamed of the actions and the writting of the other party needs to hang there heads in shame not you. they brought this upon them self .they wanted the truth and got it they wanted answers they got it remember the old saying be careful for what you wish for

 MyLinh McDonald LMAO Lia Kral...kinda funny how you can say that...I got my answer all right....in private chat....and then when you and Marie get together you come up with a different version.....you are to funny Lia....and everyone has your number....your friend your friend.....where have you been for your friend.....still LMAO....lol

MyLinh McDonald dang Lonnie McDonald now your ssssscuuuuuuuuuummmmmmmm......well well well......LMAO....

Lonnie McDonald Well Mari you can call me scum because you know the truth. And for you to not be okay with your best friend asking Lia what happened that is on you. And you can burn the bridges you want. Yes my wife types for me sometimes but will you ever know for sure if it's me or her. You know her secrets and she knows yours so let us not play how your a mother cub or lion. Because I now think you protest a little to much my dear. YOU IN YOUR HEART KNOW SHE WAS SET UP. But somehow you can not say, I believe you my friend that you would never do that as I would never do that to you. Because that would mean you were wrong about your loyal friend. She isn't going to say it but let me tell you Mari I am ashamed of how you put your own details on it and didn't just say that. She didn't bring up the details you did. She asked the simple question and you got with Lia and had to remind her of those details and then you both went off. Is that about right? No more of this Marie and to my wife, everyone that knows and loves you know how you are with kids and for this to be said about you and believed is on them and thats it.

Lonnie McDonald Oh Marie I am also an ass. And yes I am typing this to.

MyLinh McDonald Oh my gosh Lonnie McDonald this is to funny.....how do you become ssssssssssscuuuuuuuuuuuummmmmmmmmm to an ass. Its a shame right.....Well I knew she thought badly of me but damn....that is good....I got to see what she really thinks of me.

 Maritza R. Wehmann If you know how to read I said.(You know what Lonnie this is not with you and I hope that you really did not know anything about it and if you did you are a skummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.) But since you and her that your I must said you are guilty. Go Bye you are wipe out of my fb. Dont need insanity in my life.

 MyLinh McDonald really I can't read....I read it loud and clear.... your so cute.....did you get it all out yet??? because I really need to put this up on my blog.....      

ROUND 1 DIFFERENT WAR.....

My Facebook

Lia Kral I have a question to ask you and lets see if you can tell me your side of the story. I have been wanting to ask you this for a long long time. What happened and how did it happen that I lost my BFF for as many years as I did. I remember things my way and I have asked Marie and Honey their version on how things transpired but I never got a chance to ask you. I remember that someone got a hold of my diary. They ended up going to Vegas in my place while I lost a friend for many many years. Honey was in prison when I asked her and got defensive but decided that she would make peace with me and lets see what you have to say. I always wondered and lets go ahead and you tell me how it transpired in your memory. You can do it here in comments or whatever but lets hear what you got in your memory on how I didn't go to Vegas with Marie and you did. How did you make that happen.

Lia's response:

The way i remember it was i was living with maria traci,jonny and david .and some how maria fond the book iam not real sure what happen in between but the last thing i remember is a few days before we took off you called from the kmart parking lot saying you took alot pm pills and i dont know where you get the idea that i made that happen

My response:

Okay thanks


***NOW AFTER 6 HOURS OF SLEEP I WAKE UP TO THIS......


Now the war:

Maritza R. Wehmann What is going on. I will like for this to stop. I have forgotten and dont think about it anymore is been 17 yr ago and have move on and have positive of what happened. I hate to go on fb and see things that is

 Maritza R. Wehmann I hate to go to fb and read things that I have put in the back burner.

Maritza R. Wehmann If I want something of my pass to come out I will put it out their my self. So I hope I dont have to think of that day again it hurt people got hurt and change thigs. But if I have to relieve it is not going to be good. I am happy that we are all doing good and lets keep it that way. Thanks

MyLinh McDonald this wasn't about you...and like I have said it's time I got her side and I got it. Lia gave me her answer FINALLY I ASKED...not going to hide the fact that I wanted to know. and now I put it away. There was three people involved and now I got three peoples answer's. I wanted to know why and I got the "why".

Lia Kral YES IT IS ABOUT MARIA YOUR THE ONE THAT WROTE SOME UNFORGETTABLE THINGS ABOUT HER DAUGHTER IN YOUR DAIRY THAT MARIA FOUND HERSELF AND EVEN CONFRONTED YOU ON IT AT WORK SO THEN YOU TOOK IT UPON YOURSELF TOMGET PITTY FROM MARIA BY EATTING A SHIT LOAD OF PM PILLS AT THE KMART PARKING LOT

 Lia Kral YOU WANTED THE TRUE STORY THERE IS

  Lia Kral IT WAS YOUR OWN ACTIONS THAT MADE IT THE WAY IT IS MyLinh

 Maritza R. Wehmann Yes is it about me because it involves my child. I told you what happened and I forgave you and also that I did not want to remember it. We start a new friend ship. People that know what happened ask me why I forgave you because they would not have done that. But I did past is the past a I do not hold grug. I am happy we are friends but I did ask you not to talk about it . And their you go and post it on fb asking Lia about it. Sometimes in life we have to let go of the past and continue on thats what I have done. Please I do not want to think about that horrible day and what I read . Im in crying right know just thinking about my daughter that was just 4 / half year old . I don't know what to think rights now. Like I said the past is the past I don't live with the past I learned from it. I guess I still have to learn from it.


 Lia Kral AND THATS WHY I GIVE YOU THE COLD SHOULDER. A TRUE FRIEND WOULD HAVE NEVER WROTE SHIT LIKE THAT ABOUT NO FAMILY MEMBER .THAT WOULD MAKE THINK YOU REALLY WOULD HAVE DONE SOMETHING AND THATS JUST PLAIN SICK OF.

 MyLinh McDonald Lia Kral so you wrote and I thanked you for wasn't the truth after all...so you are saying that you lied to me when you gave me your answer. And I thanked you for the answer. Okay well I guess I thank you now once again for this. I kept your answer private as you delivered it and thanked you but since you now have "caps" up and such I guess the truth is finally said. I never put "daughter" up on this post. I as everyone around me knows I have always wanted to ask you. I kept it plain and simple but again the true colors of people do come out and what you actually think of me is revealed... thank you for your response and now its over....You didn't need forgiveness Marie it wasn't you....why would I have to forgive you...I thanked you for your honesty and I thanked Lia for her honesty.....well what I thought was the honesty .... and for you to add the details thats on you both....that is why a simple question....like can you tell me what you remember is seen by different people in different ways. So I was never your friend Lia and I personally don't give a rats ass you in private chat you blamed it on Marie and now with Marie on here you want to back track.. good job......your two faced self is coming out Lia Kral

MyLinh McDonald and wow PLEASE KEEP GIVING ME THE COLD SHOULDER....I beg you to continue please Lia Kral like I want to have a warm shoulder from you.....GROSS......