Krystina Lucille Tessinari

Hello my dearest granddaughter

I don't know how to express how much you are loved as all my grandchildren are.  I got to know you early in your life and got to love you then but its not the same with Titan.  He doesn't know me at all.  He came for a visit with Grandma Marie, yes all the grandma's are Marie's....lol....and Titan didn't know me, as you don't know me neither.  But I remember you and the times we spent together, the park, the McDonald's trips, and such.  How you made me slow down and be a grandma, I loved you were able to do that.  I loved your energy and smile and letting you wear your princess dress out for everyone to admire you.  I am not a desirable grandmother, I curse a little to much, I tell offensive jokes, and I laugh to hard and love to much.  I am just one of those ghetto grandmothers that only has love on her side I guess. 

I am sitting here on a Sunday afternoon just writing a letter that I desperately want to mail out and let some people know what I think, and I think it will just end up in my diary to be delivered when I am dead.  Just one of those things on why open up a can of worms but hell I am good at opening those worms.  Because I think I have a voice and I like it be known, something I heard about you also.  Look Krystina I may not be like other grandma's but everyone needs that one inappropriate family member that makes them "shake their heads" because all that straight and proper shit is for the damn birds, heck it's 2015 and Donald Trump is trying to run for president and I am so greatly amused by the idiot, he makes me laugh at some of the things he says.  We have a world with terrorism, killing innocent people and so many debates going of being political correctness, but all that correctness is censorship to me.  I have many friends, all color and breeds, look at this family, black - white - puerto rican - asain - american indian.  I have the world covered in one household.  I am tired of religion being what the terrorist use to hide behind.  Do you want to know my philosophy is:  its that we are all human and its human against humans not a religion, god didn't give us free will for nothing.  But when you hide behind a religion to make a statement that is cowardliness.  Just say you want to kill because you want to kill, and your a despicable human being.  Hitler wanted to kill "jews" because of their race (ethnicity).  In Africa, Sudan massacres, again for their ethnicity, and Rwanda killing Hutu because of their ethnicity, so the terrorist now should just say they hate americans and not quote their Qur'an and hide behind that.  We had Jonestown, and David Koresh (Branch Davidians) using the bible to hide behind.  Its just all a mess, and the world is just so messy.  I don't know how you are being raised but I hope you don't hate because of this world, but show love and tolerance.  I will not hate Muslims because a few of them are killing us, I will understand that they are just different and the terrorist do not reflect all their beliefs.  I am not a Christian or a Jew or a Jehovah Witness or Muslim, I am me and I believe in a god, but they will have to answer to their god or the one god I believe in and I hope they are dealt with forgiveness as I know god is forgiving.  But for me to group them together and hate all would be so tiring and unforgiving on my behalf.  So try to look at an individual and not a group.

Don't know I guess I am looking at the world and wanted to say this Krystina.  This may not be a "love you forever kind of letter" but something in me tells me that I want to pass on something you may want to think about one day.  You don't have to have the same beliefs as I do and you may end up with hate in your heart for a group of people but I wanted you to know my prospective.

Life isn't full of rainbows and rose petals we like to think so but it isn't.  Its a challenge and uphill battles that is fought everyday.  You have your own mind and even though you are young and have to go by the people around you and be taught right from wrong you still have a mind to say, thats not right.  And if you take a different road from what everyone else around you says isn't right, you have to be strong enough to make that conviction and to know if you have to backtrack and fix a mistake.  We make mistakes Krystina, I can be in a party or a mall and terrorist come in and kill me and everyone around me but I will know that I loved and lived and I will know that I have to answer to my own mistakes to god.  Yet I will know that I left behind a legacy.  Maybe a fucked up legacy but a legacy no matter what.  You are a part of that legacy and my children and anyone else on this earth that I helped to shape in one way or another.  These letters to you are a small part of the legacy and one day you will run across them in your everyday life.  What am I talking about there will be people delivering this legacy to you in hand in a box.  And you can read them burn them or cry for a person who may have wanted to know better.  But they are your legacy, and you do with it what you want.  Its all on you one day.

Yes, I love you with every fiber in my heart.  I love Titan Rey and any other grandchildren that may come along.  I wasn't a desirable grandmother and I made MISTAKES, but its on me and for the people around me that didn't take into consideration my love for them and my mistakes were just that mistakes, they will have to answer to their own conscious.  So yes Krystina I love you and I will always love you from the day you took your first breath to the day I take my last.  Love Krystina and tolerance is important.  The world around you may go to shit but as an individual you don't have to be a part of the shit.

Love Grandma



           



   

The Fathers Rights Movement

Duane Niersmann Been happening for many decades and it needs to Stop!!!

Robert Alexander Willoughby Parental alienation is child abuse and an infringement of a childs and fathers human rights!!

Cherish Lea We all can make a difference one united voice! One common cause. No parent should be allinated from their children or step children.

 Mike Lindsey People need to quit useing there kids as leverage only thing they are doing iius hurting the kids

Naomi Louie Omg breaks my heart reading some of these posts cry emoticon i gave my childrens father weekend visits from the beginning and recently switched to me having weekends so he could have more time with them,

     I have to applaud this.  I gave my ex husband 24-7 with his children he chose not to see them because of a girlfriend that didn't want them around.  But the dads out there that are in this situation I understand because not all woman are like me.  I wish you all the luck in the world and I wish this wasn't happening more then not.  

Fighting about Rent and School......

Patrick Birdsong (now I was talking to one of my children about what the other said and he says)....does he not understand that Lonnie and your income makes you both lower middle class and that allows me to have my education for free....and I won't be in debt. But if I found a job and that's part time or full time it makes you both upper middle class and I want to go to college for "free" not struggle and be in debt and not be able to pay my bills unlike him, who can't pay you even what he owes you, and he makes all this money according to him. The only reason he got his education was because he was in a place that he had nothing to do but get his high school completed and that allowed him to make better choices, but he is in debt. If he didn't do what he did I don't think he would have stepped up and finished what he needed to do to have what he wanted (high school diploma). And he is in debt up to his eyeballs and still won't do what is right by you neither so he needs to stop. ***This isn't a fight its reality.

 Gary Tessinari Yeah but ill send the money then what you have a 24 year old that's never paid rent or really anything. Im in debt that's right but to use the excuse to hold parents at a lower income to go to school for free doesn't help there situation at all. All I said is that you guys should be paying rent just like I was
And remember you and I are both high school drop outs. Yeah I learn different then you so it took that long for me but doesn't change the fact that you live in moms house for free like we're done silver spoon feed kids. And this doesn't show that you came to my house and lived for free and never really looked or found a job. You can go to school based on your income too. Single poor parents and people do it all the time. I have debt and ill send mpplm her money, but after whats that make you. Dont be a hypocrite. I have debt and I didn't use mom's income to hold me back. I accepted my debt and just like millions of people will pay it off. You fo nothing but school and play video games so relax on telling me what reality is.


MyLinh McDonald Got to love debates. And the different prospectives. ALL MY CHILDREN are opinionated on this subject....AND I AM SO GLAD THEY ARE...and Still will be proud of EACH AND EVERYONE OF THEM....



 MyLinh McDonald Oh and this isn't sucking up I want my children to learn to give their points. ..because I raised them and I figure they know their minds


Patrick Birdsong Name calling is a personal attack, so I'm going to give a rebuttal. I have as much of a right to speak of "reality" as you do with your background, so don't throw the word "hypocrite" as if you are not one. Here is my subjective reality. I am a 24 year old dropout. I also took the advice of my mother and received my GED the same year I was graduating. I'm in school but am in a school field where there is a lot of spontaneity (based on availability) in my schedule to hold a job. Jobs do not support spontaneous schedules. Therefore I do not have a job. For the previous 6 years, I was a dependent. I relied on mom and dad's tax bracket. They made too much money? I was screwed. I get a job to cover it? In the later years I'm screwed and now I'm taxed. I get free money? Does not affect mom and dad in any way. When I was 21, opportunity strikes and mom and dad are not in the best position financially and I had a low paying job at 7-Eleven. I went to school for free for two years. $0 out of pocket, purely supported by the government (thanks, I guess). I'm not in debt. Now I'm 24. I'm an independent now. Any single dollar I make that is not given to me affects what I receive in return. I am comfortable doing what I am doing. Am I coddled for living with my parents during college for free? Sure, if you believe that other college students are coddled the same way because they cannot afford room & board, textbooks ($250 each), cars, tuition, and student loans. I'm being spoon-fed? I have straight A's and now a 3.5 GPA cumulative. I work to get these grades. I'm earning this money and am saving as much as I can. I'm making the responsible decisions of not going too far in over my head because I know I will not be able to handle it all at once. I chose not to be at the mercy of capitalism. I did not get a car when I was 16. So I did not get a license. Had no car payment and insurance. I did not go out all the time and spend ridiculous amount of money every time. I did not get my parents to co-sign for me and ruin their credit. Unfortunately for you, I took the advice of our parents and was rewarded with free rent while I go to school -and- I do chores. I actually spend time with our parents and have decent conversations without needing something from them. I never received achievements or have milestones at jobs regardless of my job performance to easily land a "professional" job with a "fluffy" resume. I am not "handsome", "outspoken", or "over-confident" by modern standards to positively influence a job interview. I am "lazy" because I like to relax in my downtime. I did live for free in your house. I ate your leftovers (unless you "treated" me to a meal). I did not bust my ass to find a job. I don't want to spend half a day filling out applications/running around town. I'm sure you would not either. You hesitantly offered me resources to find a job. I tried. I even went on Craigslist against better judgement. I received phone calls months after I had already left the state for a job opportunity. I don't like talking about my failings. You love boasting about your accomplishments. How much money you make. How far you've come. What you do for a living. What possibilities that are within your reach being in the position you are in. How high your goals are. I am a student. I see four years in the future. I get my diploma and look for a job. Everything is up to what I do within these four years. I'm keeping my head up and charging in to the present. Your head is in the future. You dumped responsibilities on me the entire time I was there even if you felt like that was not the case. It was not a lot, but it was daily. That builds up. I made dishes? I cleaned them. I have a personal bathroom? I'm not going to clean it everyday or every week. Two weeks was where things would begin to show because I did not use it daily. The house is a mess? ~95% of the time I had nothing to do with it and if I did, I helped. Was your bathroom clean? No. Does your house get more messy after you leave? No. I constantly received the "you are not forced to do it, but it would be nice if you did" speech when house cleaning was brought up. It really means "clean our mess or it would negatively affect our perception of you". I don't bother anyone. I do my part. You both acted like I was jaded. I fully appreciated what you both did for me and made an effort that was never seen. It was fine. I kept quiet. I thought positively for the most part and really wanted to stay and be able to grow outside of Florida. I got denied by both sides of the family. You and your wife took everything at face value and then exacerbated it. You saw me around the house? "He has not left the house all day". You see me on the computer? "He's been playing games all day". You see the house as a mess "Why did he leave the house messy?" The dogs pooped? "He didn't walk the dogs at all". I respect you as a chef, but I constantly struggle respecting you as my brother and even more as a fellow person when you show such little integrity.


Gary Tessinari I dont need or care about your respect. Your a basic child who knows nothing of reality. You sit and plug your computer in to mons house with out a single care of where the electricity comes from. You sat in my jouse and did nothing for a year and sweetheart I never pushed you to do a damn thing. Your a child a grown child that lives in a house I paid rent gor since I was 16. Bitched complained paid still. You taking advantage of the situation isnt the issue. You coming from that woman and that man and still after 24 years you still dont appreciate a hard days work. I know they bitch about me im the black sheep and fuck it I could care less. I got my strength my rage and my fire from my mom where's yours diva. How does it feel to have a car but never really work for it. Got a fb must have a computer whats it like not paying electricity. Yeah I could've sat at home and went to school for free, but mom would still have wanted that rent. And she would have got it. Cuz I dont know how a man that watched our dad eat his dinners out of the microwave between three jobs and climbed out of a cunt of a cunt that broke her back doing god knows what to make sure her children had everything can sit in a house eat, sleep shit and not think a single moment about where it comes from. you dont think they bitch about you. You games, your lazy ways well they do. I've just accepted my role. Your lazy and dont have the heart to be cut from such blue collar workers. And as far  as your looks baby Caitlyn Jenner dont bring bullshit to this conversation. Aww you arent handsome or outspoken. Our have a fluffy resume. Aww cry my a huge fuckin river. I have a resume built on the foundation of what those parentd you talk too instilled in me. Ouch so personal. Yeah ive worked abd have a work history, and held a job lobg enough to get promoted. I dont want to fill out applications half a day and be chasing a job and I quote. How can you even call yourself a birdsong or a McDonald. I dont need your respect keep save it for someone who cares. Im going to go into my big as dirty house, kiss my kid and wife a prepare for another hard day at work. You plug into your virtual world and get lost. I dont need your respect, cause in the end the scumbag of that family still paid rent. You just enjoy that car, that food, that education, the clothes etc... but I envy you for one thing you got mom not to charge you rent. Mom your 3500 is on its way. I hope you enjoy the roof you guys are going to build.


 MyLinh McDonald Patrick doesn't own the car...and how dare you Gary...really Caitlyn Jenner...and paying me at 16 sometimes I wonder if your memory even works....18 dear heart....you lived in my home with Kayti and was paying the car you wanted not me for rent ....at 16...and using derogatory remarks about Patrick and his sexuality....low blow...you better get in here and read what you wrote again....and think of a better way to put your opinions son...


MyLinh McDonald did I just say I am proud of you voicing your opinion....I hope you read this and you are ashamed...and hell yeah i complained about each one of you....you every year I told you to do your taxes and you didn't that is why you owe 10,000 to the IRS....i told you you can't spend those credit cards like you do or your going to end up like me...hell I said that to Jason and he didn't listen ...ONLY Patrick did....I told you when you moved out and with your friends don't do nothing stupid and you almost ended up in prison.....I told you that you shouldn't treat Kayti so bad, look where that got you....I told Patrick to figure it out and he took a minute but he did...I yell at Patrick and Jason all the time for being on their computers all the time...a lot less now because they are actually listening FINALLY....and one is in college about to get his associate and the other goes out with friends now.....I told you to move out and look where you are at now....FUCK YEAH I yelled screamed BITCHED .... but damn Gary you have never made a mom so sad in all her life....


***THIS IS HOW WE FIGHT DIRTY AND NASTY.....IT GOES FROM A DISAGREEMENT ABOUT RENT AND SCHOOL TO THIS....and I have to say this is the true family.... got to love them as much as you hate them sometimes...and I really think Gary's second response is totally NASTY AND MEAN....but Patrick says that is what he expected out of him.  I have to say Patrick actually made me look up the word "Jade".   I love my sons and I expected it to get nasty but damn how nasty did it need to get.





 




 










 

 

My Three Sons

Today is October 6, 2015 and I am going to put in a short note about my three boys, well I should say my three men.  I am very very proud of my children.  They have grown in so many ways and have made me proud.  They have grown up from immature young boys to the men they are now.  Lets start with Patrick, who is going to earn his Associate Degree this coming year and is going to continue on with his Bachelors and made straight A's once again, he has been to the high school locally as a student teacher and is planning on doing the same in a elementary school and a middle school.  He doesn't wait around for anyone but goes and gets what he wants.  He has no debts, and because of his grades he is finding all sorts of "free" money to get through school.  Jason is a hard worker and is doing so well at his job.  I do the same job but Jason will always outshine me.  He learns so quickly and my own coach interviewed him without knowing I was his mom, and when he found out he told me how impressed he was with Jason and told the other interviewer Jason would go far with the company.  He is just a nice and perfect man and just needs to find a nice girl that will compliment him and give his mom some grand babies.  Gary is now a chief in a prestigious restaurant, he has come so far.  And they have offered him so many opportunities at other restaurants in so many other states.  I am just proud and wanted to add this blog about my children and know that they have grown up in so many different ways.  Each one finding their way and they may have a little mis-step but who doesn't.  Right now I am PROUD and I am HAPPY.   

Kim Davis

To Kim Davis (the clerk in Kentucky)

I believe in what I believe and you believe in what you do. I can stand behind your right to stand up for what you believe, I truly can, because you have that right and the freedom to do so. You have every right to do so under gods name if you see fit. And in your belief you may spend time in jail for those beliefs that takes guts. You have guts and I admire that. I believe that EVERYONE that wants to be married should and I believe in gay rights and so on and so on. But I give you thumbs up for believing in what you believe and taking the consequences, EVERYONE believes in different things and even though I don't believe in what you are doing I have to say good luck in your stance on your beliefs.

MyLinh McDonald

KRYSTINA LUCILLE TESSINARI'S FAMILY

DEAREST KRYSTINA LUCILLE TESSINARI

WE ARE FAMILY AND WE WILL ALWAYS BE WAITING HERE FOR YOU KRYSTINA LUCILLE TESSINARI....BECAUSE NO MATTER HOW FAR YOU ARE OR HOW MANY YEARS IT TAKES YOU ARE PART OF THE MOST LOVING AND HAPPY AND BATTLE IT OUT FAMILY.  YOU MAY NOT BE ABLE TO EXPRESS YOURSELF AND YOU ARE TOLD THE BAD THINGS AND WE DON'T DENY THAT.  I DON'T HIDE BETWEEN PRETTY RAINBOWS AND UNICORNS, LIFE IS HARD AND STORMY SOMETIMES BUT WHEN FAMILY COMES TOGETHER ALL YOU HAVE IS LOVE AND PEACE AND HAPPINESS.  I LOVE THAT TITAN IS BEING WATCHED OVER BY A LOVING AND DEAR GRANDMOTHER AS YOU ARE BEING WATCHED OVER BY YOUR OWN GRANDMOTHER AND FAMILY BUT REMEMBER THIS I MAY NOT BE EDUCATED AND SMART AND I CURSE AND AM INAPPROPRIATE BUT YOU WILL NEVER FIND ANOTHER GRANDMOTHER LIKE MYSELF.  AND EVERYONE IN THE WORLD NEEDS SOMEONE LIKE ME IN THEIR LIVES TO MAKE THEM LAUGH AND SHAKE THEIR HEADS AND LOVE AND FIGHT FOR EVERYTHING THEY HAVE.  SO KRYSTINA KNOW THIS ONE DAY YOU WILL SEE THE LETTERS AND SEE THE PICTURES AND YOU WILL QUESTION WHY YOU WEREN'T A PART OF IT ALL.  BUT DON'T EVER THINK YOU WEREN'T THOUGHT ABOUT AND LOVED ALWAYS.... AND I WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT WHEN YOU DECORATE YOUR ROOM IN YOUR NEW HOME THAT A ANGEL IS ALWAYS BEING SENT FROM MY HEART TO WATCH OVER YOU EVERY YEAR THAT PASSES....

LOVE ALWAYS AND FOREVER
GRANDMA
GRANDPA
DADDY
ARIELLE
TITAN REY
JASON
PATRICK
GREAT GRANDMA KIM
AND ALL EXTENDED FAMILY

Confederate Flag....and Lion and Tigers and Bears.....oh my

This is the best video that I have seen on the two subjects that I am sick of hearing about (by Sean Whalen) yes he has a FB page....

I totally agree with this.....you all know me i am the least prejudice person....just take a look at my family and tell me different......but seriously knowing my family would you say I was prejudice....no.....that flag has been flying in the most prestigious places and because one DUMB ASS made a video with the confederate flag then went on a killing spree because of his own prejudices we are in a uproar....did the flag do that....no the dumb ass did that.....did taking down the flag stop prejudices.....NOPE....NO SIREE.... AND I ALREADY VOICED MY OPINION ON THE LION THING....so come on people.....it takes love to stop prejudice ..... not taking a flag down.......LOVE FOR ONE ANOTHER....

Guess now I have to protest and condemn Hemingway......DAMN

I have to say hunting has been going on for what "centuries" and we are upset about this but I have to agree its a "lion" sorry....but humans have been hunted to like the Jews or in Sudan, the massacres, or how about the other so many other travesties.....I have to agree with you about it being a beautiful "lion" and we are all up in a uproar.....beautiful animal.....but really lets get some priorities in there and fight for humans more...the dentist got kicked out of the hunting club....REALLY.....IT'S A HUNTING ORGANIZATION.......the people there as his guides and got paid ALOT of money had more to do with the killing of that animal then he did....they took his money and gave him a hunt....they know the land and the animals there I am sure....so why is he the bad guy.....because he paid for a hunt....how many others have done the same thing......why are we not in a uproar and not protesting against the humans that are being hunted, kidnapped, and beheaded by ISIS.....we hear the news and hell some have watched the videos but where is that protest.....come on lets get the priorities straight and protest for humans more .... because I am going to protest against deer hunters (bambi)....and black bear hunters.....and hell lets protest the alligator hunters.....oh forgot.....how about the steak you eating tonight.....wasn't that killed too....

You have your opinion I am sure but I have mine and this is dumb......Tired of hearing about this EVERYDAY in the news.......