Debates about Real Life

Thursday, September 29, 2011

Debates about real life

On the way to taking my husband to work we had a great conversations on these subjects – so let me share

So the debate is this:  If you were brought up in a denomination as the base of your upbringing and you turn of age and turn from that religion that is a choice you make in life....God gave you that choice to do so....I am not a religious person....I believe in God.....I have studied the Bible with others.....but I have a belief that God is everywhere and will hear me no matter where I am.....but I would never put someone down for their beliefs.  I can have a debate with them and maybe adopt some things they believe in after the discussion....but if you make the choice not to follow the religion you were brought up in then how do you blame religion.  It needs to fall into the choices you make in life.....what people have observed is that maybe you need to look at life around you and know that no human being should be called, "STUPID" - "UNEDUCATED" - OR THINK YOU ARE BETTER THEN SOMEONE ELSE..... especially when you yourself is in a relationship with someone that does that to you.....

Debate #2 is this:  Does someone with a paper saying they have a degree make you better then someone?  To my experience, and believe me I have had this thrown in my face before, people with an education seems to throw that up in everyone’s face like it’s all that.  To me it’s what you do to further that education that makes you something doesn’t it….and what you give back to the world in order to honor that education….belittling someone in the name of that education makes you a sad sad person…..my son has dreams but how he uses that beginning step is to belittle everyone around him, especially his family….he doesn’t encourage he puts you down throwing it up in your face…..he wants this he wants that but he doesn’t say you know what I am going to do this and that and do it to the best of my ability….and Arielle follows along with how Gary is better then the rest of us because she has been brainwashed into believing it herself…..she doesn’t think to highly of herself and her abilities but wants to defend a young man and his abuse of his family….hell Gary has even put down her family and I really doubt she defends them…he has no regard for the people that have sacrificed so much to give them what they said they wanted as a stepping stone…..to continue with their dreams….my son wants to go to Maine, he wants to go to college to further his education….this is what comes out of his mouth….but does he do it….no…all talk and no actions….so while he sits around dreaming of things he tells Arielle how she can’t do this right or she isn’t worth this….is that a reflection of himself…..

Debate #3 is this:  Do you allow someone to have so much control that you cut off any real family members in your life and friends….but yet you allow that person to cheat on you and then basically fuck you….and you are okay with that….do you allow someone to tell you who can you speak with and so on and so on….I take some responsibility on that because I saw what was going on and I didn’t do something about it sooner and I tried so it’s time to go on and let it happen….called “had enough”…..I have been taking it for years from him and felt so badly for you but once again it’s your choice….so don’t try to belittle me in the process of making those choices….I am a uneducated, no job holding bitch but I have a home and a man that loves me always….and would never allow another human being to think they are better then me because of what I have and have worked for I own what I have in life….you don’t even own your own choices….so prove us wrong and get what you deserve in life….and that’s a life of your own and not one revolved around mental abuse….he is my son who I may have pride in for some things….but I think he is a abuser and you are being abused….no woman should live with what you live with….like my son say’s “he controls you, and he’s got it like that”

 

Communication and Sex

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Communication and Sex

Sometimes you have to wonder if men forget they are married to the female species.....where we need communication or a touch, to let us know that we are thought about or needed.  A nice text in the middle of the day say, "I love you" or " honey I can't wait to be with you tonight" or how about "I am horny".  Straight out right.......

We all get busy in life, we aren't young anymore where we think basic sex will keep each other interested and then that is where someone will stray.  How about writing down a fantasy you want to try or change the color of your hair or wear a trench coat with nothing underneath it and waiting for your man at the door.......as woman we have fantasies.....but do you know what kind of fantasies your man might have......and does he know what kind of fantasies we carry around with us......THAT'S WHERE COMMUNICATION COMES TO MIND......

As we get older we get comfortable and that's not how to keep a marriage in good health.....its okay that sex can be a release to for a bad day but what makes the soul happy is that we communicate changes we might want in the bedroom or basically in life......A female may want to just have a quiet evening at home to watch a movie but to cuddle with her husband or just to hold hands.....but he can't read your mind.....he may have to be told power down and lets watch this movie and hold each other.....then if he doesn't get the hint or hints because you have tried it several times then you might try hitting him over the head with a frying pan ......but what does the man want.....maybe he wants you to talk dirty to him and watch a porn with him.....are you female enough to do that for him in exchange for what you may want.....THAT'S THE QUESTION??????

We forget sex evolves like life does......and if we forget then everything in our life doesn't go right.....it's not about who is on top that night and do we have enough energy.....its about turning each other on in our sex life and communicating it well to each other....

It doesn't have to be your husbands neither it can be a partner you have....if your straight or gay....if your a christian or catholic.....its not "to much information" its the facts of life....at least its my facts and if you are honest to yourself and the other it could be your fact.....it doesn't matter if this is my opinion and not yours.....because maybe you want to believe everything is just perfect in your life.....but tell you what contact me ten years down the line and your sex life is all about who is on top that night and how you need something in your life and I will print this out for you......

As humans our needs change......like the economy.....or our living situation.....well that includes our sex lives......so take a look at that and reevaluate every once in a while and communicate it with your partner and let me tell you it will help.....and it takes work like everything else in life....its not a overnight thing.....as a ex dancer and being in the trade of fantasies I am so opened minded, you can't get any open minded then me or maybe females that have been in the business.....but what goes on in the bedroom should be open minded don't you think.....communicate and allow your mind to be open in both sides....there are limits, I promise you that if you aren't as open minded or if you are totally open minded, but you can learn how to communicate and make compromises........

So now I think I will end this......and allow all of you that think I am crazy..... to get a good laugh.....but I wonder how many of you are feeling this and just won't acknowledge it.......it's not the sexual revelation I am promoting.....its my truth and my opinion.....

3 Daughters

  on Thursday, March 31, 2011 at 1:41pm

My fathers name is Louis Crooks and he was in the army when he met my mom in Vietnam.  He loved my mother a great deal and even though he had a daughter with a Okinawan woman, her name was Mimi, he wanted to marry my mom and get us out of Vietnam.  I personally think that my mom didn't want Louis to leave his oldest daughter to rescue her and I so she chose someone else to marry.  And sent him back to his daughter Mimi.  The man she chose raised me as his and I lived as his own, and never would I trade my family for anything.  My mom told me about my biological father and it took me 10 yrs to find him through his sisters, Betty and Louellen.  And they put me in touch with my biological father.  He had another daughter Ruby with the same woman.  They were his family and he did not deny me what so ever in our conversation but he didn't want me to come into a situation that would hurt me.  He made sure I knew he would never hurt me, but his wife didn't know anything about me and he was older and needed her in his life.  And he knew I had a loving family.  But when the time came he was sure my sister(s) would love to meet me.  Well he was half right because one sister has welcomed me, and Mimi the oldest denies me.  Ruby has opened her heart to me in full and that shows what kind of person she is...even going through rough times right now she looks for me for encouraging words and I look for her for encouraging words and we love and support like true sisters.  Louis Crooks came to me in a dream last night and it was amazing, it was like he knew my oldest sister, Mimi, was going to visit him on his web and say things that weren't true.  She likes to speak for the people around her it seems, and even though Louis Crooks passed he still watches out for me and protects me from Mimi, and he wants Ruby and me to stay strong and encourage each other through life.  He knew I had a loving family and wanted to always be around for his own but God had other plans, and even though he sees what is going on he knows his family will come out of it...if you lose one part of a family know there is a back up out there.  So I am Rubie's backup and he was happy to know Ruby welcomed me as I am the gift he wanted for her.  So Ruby if you are reading this our father knew what he was doing and kept me as your backup and I will always be there for him to you....I LOVE YOU... 

 

Dan Birdsong

Something I wrote about my 1st husband -

Dan

  on Wednesday, June 1, 2011 at 4:08pm

 
You know what I hate is that this man gets a pass from being a absent dad.....Gary came to me and asked would Lonnie or I be upset if he had contact with his father (Dan) because Dan is reaching out on facebook to him (this was about a week ago) and even though I acted like the bigger person for my son and to support him, and I do appreciated him asking, and Gary did mention that he considered Lonnie as the person that was always there no matter what, I HATE IT THAT DAN IS BACK.......
 Because its like a pass for Dan who turned his back on his kids by allowing that woman, he claims to be engaged to, take a father -  son relationship and basically destroy it.  And for that jackass to bad mouth me to others that it was all my fault.  What is actually my fault?  Giving you 24 hr access to your kids with no splits in holidays - it basically allows you to have any time with your kids and such but its my fault to others that you basically turned your back - to make him feel better it becomes my fault......ASSHOLE
So he gets a damn pass - And he gives them advice and tells them he is proud of them - like he has been there and has that right - WHO THE HELL RAISED THEM AND WAS THERE FOR THEM THROUGH EVERYTHING IN THEIR LIVES AND HE HAS THE RIGHT TO BE THEIR DAD NOW AND TELL THEM HE IS PROUD OF THEM - YOU GAVE FINANCIAL SUPPORT NO MORAL OR TIME!!!!  BECAUSE YOU NEEDED A LIFE!!!!!!!!!

 And he thinks he can give them fatherly advice now - ASSHOLE
Because LONNIE was there with the FATHERLY advice and I was there always as their MOTHER!!!!!!!!!!!!

OKAY I AM GOING TO LET IT GO FOR NOW BUT HE IS A ASSHOLE FOR WHAT HIS WOMAN AND HE HIMSELF DID TO THEM AND IF ANYONE WANTS TO SEE WHAT THEY DID I WROTE A NOTE EARLIER ON ABOUT THIS JERK......